I would venture to guess that your answers to the above might look like this: ” Yes. Heck NO.”
It is rarely easy to walk away from any situation, unless something drastic has happened and you truly have no choice. But if you’re in a situation (be it work, relational, educational) and you just know you’re not operating at a healthy level, but on the surface things are enjoyable, it’s difficult to walk away.
Why is this?
I would venture to guess it’s because sometimes, being responsible isn’t easy. Sometimes we try to justify our actions and convince ourselves what we’re doing is acceptable and “okay.” When in truth, we’re really just wasting time and delaying the inevitable.
My advice to you (and I know I am being VERY vague in this post) is to walk away when you know you’re not in a situation that is healthy for YOU. It doesn’t matter what other people deem healthy, it’s about YOU. What you’re willing to tolerate is often going to differ from what other people are willing to tolerate. This doesn’t make either of your wrong; this doesn’t make either of you “bad people.” The important thing is that you are mature enough to recognize your own limits and STICK TO THEM.
At the end of the day, it’s about YOU and no one else. In the words of the darling Carrie Bradshaw:
“But the most exciting,
challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you find someone to love the YOU that you love, well, that’s just fabulous.”